Wednesday, May 23, 2007

Man Made Messes

I don't know how to handle this. Hubby has become a slob. He has sole use of the hall bathroom and it is disgusting. Hair all over the floor (from shaving his head), hair in the corner of the bathroom (from the previous hair cut, swept up don'tcha know), and stuff everywhere.

We don't have a large house. The bathroom is not equipped with a large countertop or tons of drawer space. I've tried to organize that bathroom hundreds of times and each time he messes it up worse that before.

Today I vowed to clean that bathroom. However, after just 30 minutes, my back is aching (FMS) and I'm grumpy. He came home and got frustrated with me. He raised his voice and made me angry. I hate when things like this happen. He is of the mindset that since I am home I should clean the house. I do agree with this statement. However, I do not think I should have to pick up his bandaid wrappers and put them in the trash. He is a grown man. I would not accept this behavior from a child and I don't feel I should have to accept it from him.

I have to find a way to get this clutter filled room cleaned up. I need strength to get through this day. I need wisdom to know when to stay quiet. I need so many things.


Meredith said...

I know how you feel--we have similar bathroom situations, plus men who cut their own hair!

When I get grumpy, I think of all the hours my husband works, often doing things he doesn't want to do and cleaning up after other's (figurative) messes. The least I can do is to do the same for him.

L said...

I have fibro so I understand where you are coming from. I do think there needs to be some consideration on his part since you have a chronic illness.

In theory I would normally agree with M's post too, but when the homemaker is in a constant state of illness (pain & fatigue, etc.), you have to pick and choose what is important and what can/cannot be done each day. Perhaps your dh's idea of you being the one to take care of everything at home is a little unrealistic considering?

:: Suzanne :: said...

uhm, I don't clean my husband's bathroom. I don't go in there. I don't care.

It was better for our marriage for me to let go of this than to try to change him.